10 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Reignite the Spark: 10 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Written by: Brian A



Time to read: 6 min

Key Takeaways:

Break Routine with Novelty: Introduce new experiences to avoid predictable patterns and keep intimacy alive.

Open Communication: Discuss fantasies and desires openly to deepen intimacy and explore new pleasures together.

Experiment and Enhance: Try different positions and incorporate sex toys to enhance excitement and satisfaction in the bedroom.

Don't Let Your Sex Life Fall Victim to Routine. Rediscover Passion, Pleasure, and Intimacy with These Proven Tips.

Being in a loving relationship is lovely. But if you’re not careful, the routines of daily life together can end up turning your once steamy sex life into a series of routine romps in the sack.

Look, we all get complacent and full into patterns at times, and this is even easier to do when we feel so happily comfortable with another person. But sex is definitely not supposed to be comfortable all the time. Sex gets better when you throw a little unintimidated and spicy newness into the mix.

If you feel like your relationship has taken a sexual slide and aren’t exactly sure when, why, or how it happened, relax; you’re not alone. More importantly, just because things aren’t as hot and horny as they were when you started doesn’t mean you can bring back the mojo!

In this post, we’ll offer up a few tricks on spicing up your sex life and look at a few crucial factors that might cause your partner to be on sexual autopilot or even lead to sexual frustration.

What Happened To The Passion?

A study done back in 2017 with an abstract published by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) shows that sexual frequency declines among partnered individuals – whether married or just living together. Why? The study points out that many couples sharing a home tend to have more significant distractions, such as school-aged children, which can lead to fewer opportunities for sex.

Additionally, research has shown that the first year of a relationship is usually the most sexually active. Then, as time passes, sex takes a back seat to the daily grind, and even the act itself becomes less about passion and more about the dreaded comfort zone.

One more reason your sex life might be suffering is an unmanaged sexual issue. Men, particularly as they age, can experience erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety. Women can develop problems getting naturally lubricated, causing intercourse to become painful. Issues like these can undoubtedly damage your sex life. Fortunately, male performance enhancement products and other sexual health products now exist to help couples work through these issues.

Bottom line – it’s never too late to kick off some of that sexual dust and reignite the flame that once burned so bright. Ready? Let’s do it!

10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

Spicing things up in the sexual department is not necessarily about making crazy changes. Great sex is often about the little things. Take extra time to please your partner. Listening to how and where your partner wants to be touched. Being willing to experiment. With just a little effort, you’ll be able to take your sex life from ordinary to orgasmic!

  1. Open Up About Your Fantasies

There has to be something that kinky devil inside you has been wanting to try. Guess what? Your partner has a devil, too! Put your cards on the table and communicate your fantasies. Is it dressing up? Role play? Perhaps a little healthy BDSM? You don’t have to go full-on freaky from day one. In fact, just opening up about your secret desires with each other can be a very cathartic and erotic moment in itself. You might get so hot that a spontaneous session erupts!

  1. Experiment With Sexual Positions

Most couples have a go-to position or two. Why not? If you both dig it, it certainly can’t be wrong. Nevertheless, switching up your moves occasionally can rev things up in the bedroom. Have you ever heard of “The Lotus,” “The Sexed-Up Snuggle,” or “The Ballet Dancer”? Google them. You just might learn to add one more go-to position to your repertoire.

  1. Bring Toys To The Party

These days, we have an endless variety of vibrators, plugs, beads, cuffs, and quivers available for our sexual pleasure. It’s important to be honest with your partner about what you might be into, but toys are a great way to prolong sex, and they can take you places you’ve never gone before. If you’re new to toys in the bedroom, visit an adult shop and walk through the aisles together. Chances are, something will catch your eye and spark your desire.

  1. Do It In The Daytime

When sex starts becoming routine, it usually ends up happening right around bedtime, and it can be hard to get into an adventurous sexual spirit at the end of a long day. So, make it a point to have day sex from time to time. Maybe it’s planning for some afternoon delight on a Saturday. Perhaps it’s a bit of morning action before you start your busy days. Maybe it’s a romantic lunchtime rendezvous. Doing it during the day is sure to put a jump in your step and some zest back into your sex life.

  1. Create A Mood

Send your partner loving and desirous texts during the day. Download the perfect love-making playlist. Light a boatload of candles, draw a warm bath, and open a good bottle of wine. Remember, great sex isn’t only about kinking things up. Sometimes, all you have to do is add a little more romance.

  1. Get A Hotel Room And Play Away

You don’t have to be on a romantic vacation to feel like you’re on one – at least for one night. Get a hotel room for no reason other than to change the scenery and spice up the night. Remember, this hotel room isn’t about getting away; it’s about getting together! So, call a babysitter or grandparent if you need to, but get a room and go to town.

  1. Watch Porn Together

We’re assuming if you’re reading this that, you’re not a prude when it comes to porn. But when was the last time you watched it with your partner? While porn may not be the right choice for every couple, it certainly helps a lot of them find new avenues to explore and inspires new fantasies to share.

  1. Stay Healthy or Get Healthy

It’s hard to have passionate sex if you’re huffing and puffing your way through it. Exercise and eating right will do wonders for your sex life. Not only will you be able to perform better, but exercise has been shown to boost the libido of both men and women. If you’re in good shape, great! If you know you could do better and have noticed your performance level dropping, do yourself (and your partner) a favor and start a physical fitness routine. If you’re obese or have any other medical conditions, speak with your doctor about formulating a safe and effective exercise program.

  1. Put Sex On The Calendar

This may seem like a dull tip. After all, spontaneous sex is often incredible sex. But if you’re like most couples, you probably have pretty full schedules, and we have to live in the real world (when we’re not role-playing). Go ahead and schedule some time on your calendars for sex. Knowing it’s on the agenda might get you a little hot and bothered as the day approaches. Also, by planning, you can set a particular mood, choose a special place, or even use the time to prepare for that role play.

  1. Fix It If It’s Not Working

We’re going to end with a tip that any couple experiencing sexual dysfunction issues needs to hear. You cannot spice up a sex life if you’re not having sex due to erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, or other problems. Help is available in a variety of forms, including natural  male enhancement supplements  available without a prescription, medications like Viagra® and Cialis®, and sex counseling that can help with anxiety, depression, and other issues impacting performance. If you are experiencing a problem, it’s not likely to go away if you don’t address it.


Do you have any insight or tips on better sex? Please share them with our readers in the comment section below. Look for more posts on sexual health and enhancement coming soon.

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